Primary School Discos and Birthday Parties, oh my!

Picture of disco ball from Wikimedia Commons.

Just last night I didn't know what to write about.  But today when I picked Audrey up from her second birthday party in 2 weeks, it hit me. Discos and birthday parties, of course.  The disclaimer is that the information I have on primary school discos is secondhand.  I didn't actually take Audrey to this event - Paul did. But he told me a few things, which I pass on here.

I don't know about you, but in the U.S., the first dance I remember going to was about seventh grade (age 12 or so).  Not so here in Scotland.  Last week, the school that shares space with Audrey's school threw a disco, with everyone invited - P1-P3 (ages 5-8) from 6:00 to 7:15, and the older kids (up to age 11) a bit later. Paul said they had a real DJ, who played such crowd-pleasing favorites as "Let It Go" from Frozen (you should have seen it, said Paul - every little girl in the room started singing along) as well as things you could dance to.  The organizers also served typical "party food" - crisps (potato chips), sweeties (candy) and juice (blackcurrent and orange, the two juice flavors you see everywhere for kids). Apparently discos are not just for school, though - our friends who went to a family-friendly vacation park in northern England said there were kid discos there too - their 5-year old got dressed up and went out to dance.

Clipart of cake from Wikimedia Commons.

Discos I can see as a cultural difference - chalk it up to European influence. But kids' birthday parties should be the same, right? Wrong, and I'm beginning to understand the typical structure of a Scottish kid's party. though I don't understand the reasoning behind some of the party choices. First, the attire.  "Dressed up" seems normal to me (which is how some kids, including Audrey, dress for parties), but "Wear your Halloween costume?" It's called "fancy dress" here, and today there were three Meridas (from Brave, as you might imagine, a popular Scottish heroine), two Alice in Wonderlands,  one Sophia the First (the birthday girl), one or two who might have been Elsa , one possible Ariel and one possible Jasmine, plus assorted pirates, nurses, etc.   There's also the tradition (also present in Rhode Island) of not opening the presents at the party.  This seems odd, because if everyone brings a present, isn't it nice to open them and say thank-you? We always did this at my parties as a kid (at least that I remember), but maybe we were different from the norm in the 80's too and I just don't remember it. The final thing about Scottish birthday parties that I can't figure out is this: they always send the cake home in the goodie bag.  Granted, kids are eating the typical party food like crisps, sweeties and juice, so they're probably not hungry for cake.  But all the parties Audrey has been to, the cake is wrapped up in a napkin and either handed to the party guest or put in the goodie bag. They sing Happy Birthday, cut the cake, and then don't eat it. Audrey is quite sensitive to these norms, and when we have her party in a few more weeks, she may insist that we too send home the cake.  But right now we're thinking of putting a disclaimer on the invitations we're soon to hand out to her friends: Caution: Cake Will Be Served!

Happy Birthday, Great-Grandma!

This is my final post on the date April 20, 2014. The first one was about preparing for Easter in Scotland, the second about my in-law's wedding anniversary, and this one is about celebrating my grandmother's birthday.  It makes me a little sad that I rarely celebrated grandma's birthday while she was still living - it was often celebrated at the end of the day on Easter Sunday, if it fell close enough to Easter, but my family was always hurrying back to Virginia for school and work the next day.

But now, we celebrate. It was really Audrey's idea. Last year, after great-grandma Marguerite passed away in March, Audrey wanted to do something for her birthday. So, we made cupcakes. Disney Princess cupcakes, to be precise. And we ate them and said, "Happy Birthday Great-Grandma!" We might even have sung Happy Birthday. This year, Audrey remembered, and wanted to celebrate again. So she made a card, and we made cupcakes: Peppa Pig this time (local color, or should that be colour)

On the evening of April 19, we burned the card (or as Audrey said, "Fired it up") in our garden, and ate a cupcakes for evening snack.  Happy Birthday, Great Grandma! Hope the card got to you, and that you enjoyed the cupcake :-) Love you!

Great Grandma taking the girls on walker rides: Thanksgiving, 2012

Happy First Birthday, Audrey!

Audrey is one today. Today at 1:09 pm, pacific time, to be exact. I will probably be at mom-baby group at that time, although our group days may be numbered because most of the babies are so much younger and Audrey's favorite thing to do is to dash off into nearby rooms where she is not allowed to go, meaning that I spend the whole group chasing her down. She is now a full-fledged toddler, though she still looks too tiny to be walking around and getting into things.

Motor-skill wise, walking is the big thing. She still scoots across the floor when she wants to move fast but she walks well and only starts tripping and falling when she's tired. She can climb stairs (although getting down is more challenging) and can go down small slides at the park by herself. Verbally, she's making lots of sound that might be words, but they're still in "baby", so we don't understand most of it. Sometimes she gets frustrated because she'll walk up to me and say something like "Bob" and I won't respond, so she says, louder, like maybe I'll understand her if she speaks up, "BOB!" Socially, she's still the same social butterfly. She feels it's her job to greet everyone and make them feel welcome. She waves and smiles. For all I know she's saying "Hi, my name is Audrey, what's yours?"

Her sleeping is getting a little better, she still wakes up a couple of times a night but only eats once. We've run into a few people who said 13 months or so was the magic "sleeping through the night" age, but we're still dubious since people have been telling us since 6 months that she's supposed to be sleeping through the night. Oh well. She's napping now but may be up soon - I think I hear her moving in the crib on the other side of the wall. Happy Birthday, Audrey!

Hanging with the Family

So Friday was my birthday. In the morning, Paul talked to Audrey and told her it was mommy's birthday so she should be especially helpful and good all day. He also told her about the party we were having at 5:30 to eat ice cream cake with the Orzech family and some friends. It seems kind of crazy, but she acted like she really heard him. I gave her a bath, and she had no problem with it (previously there had been at least some screaming associated with baths). I fed her a bottle and she took to it right away instead of fussing. And when people came over at 5:30/6:00 pm, she happily hung out with family members and friends. After ice cream cake (chocolate cake and mint chocolate chip ice cream from Baskin Robbins...) ten of us went out for sushi at our favorite local sushi place (suggested by a vegan friend who went with us because she knew there were things she could eat there). Audrey hung out in her carrier, smiling at everyone, then ate a little when our food came (she likes to eat at the same time as me) and then fell asleep for the rest of the meal. Here she is hanging out with Aunt Jen at the ice cream cake party...